A letter to my 16 year old self


You were not meant to be a doctor. You could have been any number of things and you will land a career that is fulfilling, but medicine’s not for you. So don’t beat yourself up about it.

Don’t measure yourself with the yardstick that others use. Ask your conscience if it is satisfied with the decisions you made. If yes, rest assured, that you did good.

You will never be able to please everyone so don’t even bother trying. If your decisions/actions are not harmful or hurtful to yourself/others, then don’t give a damn about what the world has to say.

You are beautiful – you may not be able to see it now, but you definitely are not the fat cow that you imagine when you look into the mirror.

Honesty may not always be the best policy – a little lie that avoids hurt feelings and unnecessary conflict is not a bad thing.

THINK BEFORE YOU SPEAK – you will not have learned this even in your 30’s but you will be a lot better than you are.

That boy you like – go, tell him you like him. Life’s too short to let good things pass by unmentioned, unrecognized and unfulfilled.

Sing loudly, you may not sound very sweet or perfect, but you will enjoy yourself.

That daughter you have been dreaming of having, you will have her and she will be everything you wished for and then some.

Make friends carefully, not everyone who is a “friend” today is truly one, nor do you want these people to be your friends in the future. You will end up with a handful of close friends – “soul sisters” eventually and they’re all keepers

Your acne are not going anywhere, they will plague you even in the years to come

Your dress sense does get better and you get paid compliments too for the same.

You discover flat irons and your hair is a lot easier to manage. Better yet, your daughter is born with straight hair.

Write, you may not win a Booker or a Pulitzer but it gives you satisfaction.

Let go, forgive. It’s not easy but holding grudges is more difficult and takes too much energy. In your 30’s, you won’t have the time or the energy.

Don’t cultivate negative ideas about living abroad, you will end up there and though you will ache and pine for your homeland, you will also make peace with living abroad.

Go out and live life. It’s a huge adventure and it awaits you with open arms. You’ll do okay, kid.

This post was inspired by this piece by Meeta Kabra who in turn was inspired by this piece.

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